WRITING WOW WEDDING VOWS

Not everyone is able to conceive a passage of love and affection as gracefully as Shakespeare. Sometimes you might feel a sense of writer’s block and get the feeling that it isn’t all worth it. But trust us- we have the tips to get you writing beautifully in no time!

1.   Find your inspiration

Read some traditional examples. If your practice a faith, look toward those original practices, or even look into others to see what works for you. Feel free to integrate these examples into your own words, or simply use them as a starting point. After you have a selection that you love, try and see if you can notice what it is about the style that draws you toward them.

2.   Establish your tone and format

Funny? Poetic? Romantic? With your partner, decide on you want your vows to come across. Will you write them separately or together? Will they be the same, or will they be individual? Are they going to be a secret from each other, or will you share them before? There are a lot of things to work out before you dive right in.

3.   Promises

Don’t forget that they’re called vows for a reason. The promises are the most important part. Include both broad and very specific promises, such as “I promise to stand by you through everything” as well as “I’ll be your shoulder to cry on every time we watch A Star is Born”.

4.   Draft

Make sure you reflect on your life with your partner and take some notes about your relationship. With these notes you can write it all out and establish a structure for your first draft. It can be helpful to break it into an outline such us; Affirm your love, praise your partner, offer promises, and close with a final vow. Another idea is to start with an anecdote or short story and circle back to it at the end.

5.   Clichés

Now that you have a draft, it’s time to make some edits. It’s okay to borrow from poetry, novels and movies, but don’t let too many clichés sneak in. You want your vows to sound like you and relate specifically to your relationship. If you find yourself stuck in clichés, try coming up with specific examples from your relationship that have the same message.

6.   Nothing cryptic and embarrassing

Everyone is here. This is your public union and celebration so make sure that everyone feels included in the moment. Put a limit on your inside jokes and unique nicknames. Remember that you’ll reflect on your vows for your whole life, so make sure you’ve thought long and hard before you add in that embarrassing story. It’s okay to share your vows with friends or family beforehand for some feedback.

7.   Practice makes perfect

It’ll be awkward the first few times, but it’s SO important to practice out loud. Your vows should be easy to say and sound conversational. Listen out for any long sentences or tongue twisters- and let them go. This is also the time to work on your delivery. Figure out which notes you really want to hit, at the best storytelling approach for you. Don’t forget to take note of your hands and make sure they’re not too crazy. After all, your wedding photography and videography team will be there to make sure they savour every second.

After this you’ll be ready for the big moment! We know you’re going to create the most beautiful vows for you and your partner. We would love to be there to capture every moment of it for you to remember forever. Contact Duuet Wedding Melbourne Wedding Photography and Videography studio today!